Home for the Holidays

Thanksgiving is on Thursday. I have many many things to be thankful for this year. My health, my kids, my house, my family, and friends are the top ones. This year is also the first year that I won’t have the kids with me for Thanksgiving. The ex is taking them to his parents house […]

Dater Burnout

The thing about online dating, is that your pool is only as good as the other people looking. I mean, technically, this is true in real life too. But just not as obvious. And with some apps and their algorithms, I think they are trying to keep people from matching. Keep their user numbers up? […]

Call it—-Ghosted?

I’m calling it. Time of death – Friday 5:11pm (17:11 for my medically inclined friends). Blonde boy and I were supposed to get together Monday night. But last week, two weeks? Who knows! I got an unexpected surprise. The ex could keep the kids for the night, instead of just dinner as planned. I had […]

Reflections

It’s been a year. Since I found out my ex was having a long term affair. Since I learned who the affair was with. Since I asked him to leave. Since we started lawyer and dissolution processes. Since I started going to therapy regularly. That’s one of the reasons why I’m doing this blog anonymously. […]

The Blonde Boy

I had a first date the other night. This is a guy who I met through Bumble. I wasn’t too sure what to expect. He seemed nice, we didn’t chat tons before the date, so I had fairly low expectations. He will be known hence forth as the Blonde Boy, or BB for short. Because […]

What are you looking for?

“So what are you looking for?” “I don’t know. Renting with the option to buy?” “What are you looking for in a date?” “‘in a date’ as in the event, or as in the guy?” It’s these kinds of questions that I hate about online dating. It isn’t so bad if you are out, you’ve […]