DTR Dodger

Attractive, sweet, genuine, caring, thoughtful, attentive, perceptive, communicative – The Alien is literally unlike any other guy I’ve dated. Its been two months, and there isn’t ANYTHING that has made me pause and think – hmmm this could be a flag, I’ll stick it in my back pocket for review later. Nothing. And that’s scary. […]

The Spaniard – Poor Communication Skills

I joked that he had a five star uber rating. The next day I sent it to him via text. I was trying to be flirty, thinking maybe he would suggest another date. Instead of being playful and seemingly in on the joke, he was weirdly formal. Maybe that is just his style? What is […]

When is it ok to have a threesome?

I’m out with my friend, in the Spaniard’s neighborhood. There was no communication after the last date. I took the chance and sent a quick message that we were trying a spot he recommended. His response was short and I didn’t push for more conversation. My friend and I continue our wine and dinner night, […]

Thoughts on Breakups

Is it possible to be so emotionally damaged that you can’t recover? Triggered over and over and over that you just end up broken, instead of coming out the other side healed? I’ve lost my appetite. My jaw hurts from clenching. I’m listening to all the Taylor Swift. I’m not sleeping well. Shit. I’m seeing […]

Someone Else

His OkCupid profile says he is seeing someone, and it’s not me. Saturday we go out for pizza, we wander around a book store chatting about books we’ve read, favorite authors, he suggests we start our own book club. The night before he asked if I was into board games, I replied that I was […]

Silence

Shit. I’m going to be late. Shit! shitshitshit. I text him and let him know I’m going to be 10 minutes late. Its really 15 minutes, and honestly I didn’t plan for parking being such a disaster so I ended up 30 minutes late. Not a good start to the date. We matched on Bumble. […]